Deeper Gratitude Brings 

Deeper Connections, Deeper Commitments, and Deeper Contentment

Deeper Connections

When we learn to truly understand the cost of whatever we feel the need to thank others for, we start to understand a little more about them. As we replace the ego with empathy in our gratitude practices, we build deeper, more genuine connections. When we learn to truly understand the cost of what God has given us, we deepen our connection and understanding of Him.

Deeper Commitment

A natural byproduct of deeper connection is deeper commitment. As we apply this idea to our key relationships, it strengthens trust and that leads to better results. If we apply the same idea to our relationship with God, we will find it easier to do the things He asks of us.

Deeper Contentment

By strengthening our gratitude muscles, we not only increase our capacity for happiness and joy--we actually feel those emotions more deeply because our gratitude is infused with integrity. We leave behind the hollow habit of saying thanks simply because we should and we enter the intention-filled realm of lifting others as we lift ourselves.

What's Included?

  • 6 hour long weekly Rethinking How We Thank Group Coaching Sessions focused on how to apply deeper gratitude to our Connections, Commitments, and Contentment.
  • 'Hot Seat' opportunities during coaching sessions to receive extra help on individual problems. These are a great opportunity for the whole group to see the principles applied to problems they can probably relate to.
  • Weekly homework exercises to help you apply what you are learning in real life scenarios that matter to you.
  • Access to a private Facebook Group where we will discuss the application of the principles and exercises through out the week. In this group, you will receive ongoing encouragement and ideas from others who are striving to deepen their gratitude!
  • Access to a recording of the Rethinking How We Than--Key Relationships Workshop

What is the biggest, most important benefit of deepening our gratitude?

Fred Rogers once said, “I believe that appreciation is a holy thing--that when we look for what's best in a person we happen to be with at the moment, we're doing what God does all the time. So in loving and appreciating our neighbor, we're participating in something sacred.” 

Intentional gratitude that is filled with integrity doesn't just lead people to feel heard and seen by you. It leads them to feel heard and seen by God. They may not even believe in God, but they will feel something meaningful and that will come through you. Deepened gratitude is the quickest way to become an instrument in God's hands, helping Him touch lives.

Who Am I?

Hello! I am Matthew Pilling. 

I am a husband of more than 20 years and a father of five wonderful children. I'm a Christian and a pretty normal guy.

I've been blessed through the years with a few special experiences that have opened my eyes to a few important things. Through those experiences, I've come to believe:

     -God knows us and loves us individually. That means He knows you!

     -He wants us to be deeply, genuinely happy. He has provided tools that will help us be happy if we choose to use them.

     -Too many of us sit in the zone that CS Lewis described where we stay close enough to God to feel safe, but not close enough to God to be changed by Him.

I am on a mission to help people address that last point. I seek to help people recognize their true nature and their divine potential. As people learn to come closer to God and actually be changed by Him, they will find happiness and meaning that aren't available elsewhere. Though His changes may require sacrifice and effort on our part, He will make so much more of us than we can make of ourselves. 

Having said all of that, I recognize that the world can be a cold and cruel place. So much seems unfair. But, as we draw closer to God and forge real connections with Him, our perspective changes. And our ability changes. I don't just want God as my ally to help get me through--I want to be His ally to help others get through, as well. His promises are real and they give me hope and I want to share that hope with you.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can this really work? 

     -It probably sounds outlandish to say that simple changes in how we thank can affect all areas of our lives. I compare this to finally learning the right way to exercise. Nothing is more frustrating than putting in time at the gym but not getting results. But, often, with just a few tweaks to an exercise, trainers can help you reap the benefits that were always available. Obviously, the more out of shape you are, the harder it is going to feel, but the rewards are so worth it.

Does this really matter? I'm already a pretty grateful person.

     -Society has told us how important it is to be thankful. Sadly, however, society hasn't done a very good job of teaching us how to strengthen that habit. The human spirit thrives on progress. More is not always progress and most gratitude practices simply push us to tally our blessing and see more things to be grateful for. I would never tell anyone to stop a gratitude practice. Keep journaling, keep offering up thanks to God and to those you love. But, let's start going for depth, as well. True progress in the gratitude department requires that we push our gratitude deeper. And the rewards that come as we deepen our gratitude are SO WORTH IT!

This sounds like a lot of work. Can I really do it?

     -All good things require some sort of effort. But the efforts involved here aren't extreme. And, I'm not suggesting that we apply this to every single time we say thank you (though that wouldn't hurt). It has been said that what you are in one thing, you are in all things. Work with me on adding depth to your gratitude in your key relationships and it will spill over into how you offer thanks in all areas in your life. 

Can't I just do this on my own?

     -Some people naturally get this. They see with different eyes. I am not one of those people. It wasn't until my mom was fighting cancer that I began to see things a little differently. And, it has taken me decades of pondering and considering new ideas in regards to gratitude to really bring this into focus. I don't want you to have to wait for the suffering in someone's life to open your eyes. Maybe it will still take some of that (and this won't prevent that). But, with a little coaching and preparing, you'll be better equipped to not only feel joy during suffering but you'll be able to share joy with others, as well. If you're open to it, I'd love to work with you to shorten your learning curve and help you feel deeper joy now.